And the Age of Chaos is Over
It’s our youngest sons – Jax - 8th birthday today. Eight! Where did the
time go I hear you ask? Well we’ve lived every minute of it, so I can’t tell
you it’s flashed by. Not at all. But it’s been a ride.
So our message to
the Jaxster
Happy Birthday little man and we hope you feel suitably spoilt and
special today. It’s kind of handy for you having a mum born on New Year’s Day,
because I remember what it’s like to have a birthday at a time when it’s nothing
but a blip in the minds of everyone as the post-Christmas lethargy sets in. You
will always be special on your big day son - that’s a promise.
But we’re celebrating your big day for another reason as well – your Dad
and I. Apparently, this is the end of the illogical, chaos years, otherwise
known as childhood.
Those years when we can’t reason with you. When you cry at the drop of a
hat. When everything you do is overshadowed by emotion and a lack of common
sense. When you are random in your activities and illogical in your motives.
When you still require us to do so many of the mundane things – dress you, tie
your shoes, brush your teeth, entertain you, keep you focused or occupied, and
on it goes.
It’s not that we’ve minded doing those things for you. Much of it has
been a pleasure. But we’re nine years into this parenting malarkey (including your
brother of course) and you know what, we’re ready to move on. Are you?
We feel like you are. You seem to have grown up so much in the last
year, it’s mind blowing. You’re demanding your independence now and we love
that mate! Go fly and be free son, but always remember the most important thing
is to be confident, kind and respectful – that’s all we ask of you and we’re
here to guide you if you want it.
Also now that you’ve had your tonsils and adenoids out, you might get
better quality sleep and perhaps we’ll start seeing you accelerate at school
like we know you can? That’d be nice love. Last year was a bit stressful for
your old parents.
You are a firey one Jaxy! Boy you like an argument don’t you? Being
right is important to you as well. You’re obstinate, argumentative, stubborn,
pig-headed, dogged, tenacious, confrontational, contrary, adamant, determined…
and yet research proves this is a good thing. This article ‘Your
Stubborn Kid Will Probably Be A Wildly Successful Adult Says Science’ proves
the point.
Hey Steve, let’s not worry about retirement
savings. Jax will be rich enough to take care of us – awesome!
I have to say we feel like we’re living through a balancing
act now. Trying to ensure you have enough space to develop your own voice, while
helping you understand that the most important thing is to be kind and to
listen to others. Let’s face it, being right doesn’t always feel good for you
anyway – does it darls? Trust me, it’s true. Everyone has a view, listen to
them.
But we’re not worried about you mate. You’re
growing up, working out who you are, finding your voice, discovering your
passions, uncovering your humour, and experimenting at this great game called
life. It’s pretty fascinating watching you on this growing-up journey I must
say.
We both picture you, walking out the door about a
decade from now, all six foot three of you, probably with heaving muscles, and
the people you give your heart to are going to be very lucky indeed. You’re
certainly a lover my sweet one.
The truth is you’re soft and sensitive, although
most people don’t see this side of you. Don’t worry, we know it darling. We’re
here to help with the pain in your heart when you need it mate. We understand
what that feels like.
Jax we just want you to know that we think you’re a
special fella. A total pain in the arse for sure, but we’re at the end of the
chaos years now, so happy birthday to my darling boy, and welcome back to
sanity for Steve and I (please let it be true). What a ride!
Yours, without the bollocks
Andrea
PS: If anyone would like to blow my bubble on the
chaos years not being over, right now, please feel free to go and get stuffed!
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